My clients really struggle with boundaries, especially with family. I know I have too. You don't want to cut off people you love, but you don't want to be drained or judged either. With people at work or in your life, you want to have good boundaries from the get-go so that you don't go into any bad patterns with them.
We can solve this problem with energy. Using this work, we can look at our energy field and see if there are any energy cords between ourselves and another person.
I find that there is one cord of light between our hearts that is unconditional love. That is eternal, and it creates a loving relationship. We don't want to cut that. But there may be other cords.
These other cords seem to go to certain chakras and can appear dark. It makes sense. For example, if your father always tells you that you are stupid, you might have a cord from your father to your third eye chakra, your mind. If a spouse often depends on you for money, you might have a cord attached to your root chakra, the center of your self-worth and finances.
These are relationships that are central to our life. We don't want to end them. But we do want to have boundaries so that the relationship can shift. So that we don't have to keep hearing the same things over and over again, or be triggered into the same old behavior. How do we do that?
We can fill up with light, go into the energy, as I teach in my classes, and call in your angel or guide to help. Often you can see the cord yourself as something dark or heavy. Ask your guide to cut the cord. Be present in the light to observe the transformation. If this sounds confusing to you, try one of the audio tapes in "Products" to guide you along.
Once the negative cord is cut, both people benefit. I've seen relationships change where old behavior is changed, where old negative messages fall away. It helps both people, it allows them both to be more positive and be open to a more loving relationship.
It is amazing, after this happens often the Universe shifts the whole relationship so that the pattern of negative behavior disappears.
